You can achieve everything, but not at the same time, and nothing significant without efforts.
There are circumstances, there are unpredictability, there are irreparable personal characteristics, but any question is ultimately worth directing to yourself: “Bad country? Why do you live in it?”, “Can’t get a job? Which experience should you have to have no chance not get hired?”…
Once you accept the responsibility, you can begin toВ implement it, while enjoying the process and development. ToВ do it you can manage meanings, importance, goals, decisions, actions, thoughts, and emotions. Everything else is derivative.
Part 2. TOOLS
Meanings management
There are more than 150В billion stars inВ our Galaxy (the Milky Way), and over 100В billion galaxies inВ the visible part ofВ the Universe.
Compared with such aВ scale, any ofВ our achievements or problems are imperceptible, any people, even the greatest, are less significant for the world than some particularly passionate ant for humanity as aВ whole, and any meaning is important primarily from the point ofВ view ofВ the concrete human, experiencingВ it.
But the importance ofВ having this meaning for each individual is HUGE. Finding or adding it allows you toВ live aВ conscious, happy and productive life, although it is not the only sufficient condition for its realization.
The easiest way is toВ apply efforts toВ those areas toВ which there is indifference and inВ which there is aВ competitive advantage. Engage inВ the implementation ofВ what inspires and where there is an increased chance ofВ great success. When that happens, the feeling ofВ importance will not be left behind.
Here are some useful questions for honest conversation with yourself:
– What are you interested in? What are you willing to do even for free? What do you care about? If you could study anywhere and anything for the next year, what would it be?
– What are your outstanding abilities? What questions do you get asked most often? What do you do better or easier than others? What is your superpower?
– What are your ambitions? In which area would you like to be among the best? Which activities give you energy? What achievements are you proud of?
– What is important to you? What do you hate in the world around you and what do you really want to change in it? What are your goals outside of life? Let’s say you achieved the goal, what do you get out of that?
– Who are you? What do you believe in? What are you grateful for? What would you like to be thanked for?
Yes, the choice ofВ what toВ do is not always possible, but we always have aВ choice ofВ how toВ treat it. We can consciously add meaning toВ even the most potentially meaningless things, especially if we find therein aВ chance for creativity.
With pleasure and desire, do what you have to do, and treat everything as a game with meaning. Find value for the future and reasons to play, observe, look at different angles, improve the process – do anything, but do not allow a lack of meaning. You have only one life, and you have the power to live it with a sense of meaning.
Importance Management
First you control the importance, then the importance controlsВ you.
Each ofВ us have the mental remote control ofВ our perceived importance, you can use it toВ increase or decrease the perceived importance ofВ what happened inВ the past, can happen inВ the future and is happening right.
How does it work?
– If you feel that you have a lack of motivation for something really important, raise the toggle switch on the remote control and find confirmation of this importance.
– If you are overwhelmed by some of the disturbing feelings. Inhale calmly, hold the air and exhale gently in front of you with relief, remember the number of stars in the universe, mentally return to where you are now, and slowly lower the toggle switch. You will succeed if you go in the right direction, you have everything you need for this. The same should be done with anxiety, worries and insecurities.
Why it is important?
An excessive or insufficient sense ofВ importance greatly hinders the achievement ofВ goals and beats our emotional state. For example, if you feel that some goal is painfully important toВ you, reduce this importance, as this will interfere with its achievement. InВ addition toВ the mental remote, you can use the development ofВ alternative acceptable scenarios and shifting the point ofВ view ofВ the situation.
Check back 2—4 times a day your current level of perceived importance on the issues that concern you and move the toggle switch to the optimum position.
Goals Management
You are the main tool for setting and achieving your goals.
The idea of the future, formulated in the form of a goal (“image of the result”), is a means of achieving meaning in the present. Big goals give energy, followers and observers. And, what is most interesting, they require approximately the same efforts as the achievement of less ambitious goals. Don’t be afraid to raise the bar. Life is one, do not exchange it for uninteresting trifles.
Task selection is also a task. Important task. The ability to abandon the less significant tasks, focus on the priority ones and perform them well is the basis of any achievement. Moreover, the meaning of setting priorities is not only in achieving certain goals, but also in optimizing your efforts. You cannot be the world’s best boxer, philosopher, builder and pianist at the same time. The rejection of one makes the other possible.
1) Make a list of things without which you will not be able to consider your life as a successful one. Without growing up a child? Without visiting 50 countries? Without publishing your book? Without launching your successful business?…
Keep this in mind when making decisions about your life – the most valuable and the only thing that you really have.
2) Double-check each item: “Let’s say you have reached it, what will get out of that?”. A good final option is the one when you can no longer explain: “You just want and it just ignites your inner fire.”
3) Leave 3—5 most important points that evoke an inner feeling of success and resonate with the questions: “Who, if not me?”, “When, if not now?”. Don’t try to save all the possibilities. Almost everything is possible, but not all at once. Choose areas that are worthy of your time and efforts.
4) Do not look for too fast routes, the achievement needs toВ mature and it may take aВ certain time.
5) Take aВ couple ofВ steps towards your goal inВ order toВ double-check its correctness byВ looking at the feedback from yourself and from life.
And then translate your goals into “focus zones” with targets, metrics, and daily habits. Dream about the result, but focus on creating “the conditions of inevitability of its achievement”.
For example, what metrics can be taken for the “weight” concentration zone?
– Current weight? Yes, for the appearance of the so-called “observer effect” and for additional motivation from approaching the image of the result, but not as metrics, since the weight will change due to different factors.
– Going to the gym? No, because you can cheat, and the gym is just one of the possible means to work out.
– A certain amount of certain exercises combined with a certain number of calories eaten? Yes! You need to focus not on a specific figure on the scales (this is an inspiring image of the result), but on providing a certain amount of full-fledged training, and then gradually convert this metric into a habit with protection of the allocated time and respect to your decisions.
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